According to psychologist Kurt Lewin a group can be defined as “a dynamic totality”.
This means that a change in state of one fraction or part of it affects the state of all the others. As in physics, the law of dynamics states that to an action corresponds an equal and opposite reaction, in a group the action of one individual can result in a reaction of each of its components. The theory of Social Perception suggests that there are different principles based on which one can assert a group affiliation, but the reality is that as much as the affiliation can be tied to a specific reason, this reason in time changes. Friendships that were born because of geographical proximity become friendships based on similarity and change in identy, through a process in which personal growth is fundamental. Today, more than twenty years later, our identity is daughter of that history that sprung behaviors, defined our characters and generated our doubts. We live far from one another, we got married, we’ve changed our habits and our priorities, in some of us our children created a new type of affiliation.
But this will always be my group, they are my friends and I am because together we are.